Polyamorous/CNM Relationship Therapy

Stepping off of the “relationship escalator” can present a lot of challenges for previously monogamous couples to navigate. I offer support for newly consensually nonmonogamous (CNM) partners in setting up their relationship agreements and establishing their boundaries, as well as working with jealousy and increasing compersion. I also work with folks in established nonmonogamous relationships. Common concerns nonmonogamous partners bring to therapy include:

• insecure attachment

• disagreement about preferred relationship structure

• disagreement about relationship agreements/boundaries

• difficulty integrating multiple partners

• challenges with parenting while poly/CNM

• jealousy and envy

• infidelity/affairs

• and more

As with monogamous couples, I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in my work with partners in polyamorous/CNM relationships. EFT is deeply informed by attachment theory. Using EFT, I help those in poly/CNM relationships improve their emotional connection by understanding and transforming negative patterns. We will work together to identify the negative cycle (your “dance”) you may be having with one or more partners and the underlying unmet needs that are driving it. We will restructure your cycle so that you can communicate more effectively and reconnect.